1 Tone down your fashions. First impressions do count.

    You can still wear brightly colored clothes, but look at the fit and the style.

    Wear more tailored clothing, more put together.

    不再那么在乎外表。當(dāng)你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己不再盲目的喜歡跟風(fēng)似的和一群人混在一起，開始尊重自己的意愿做自己需要做的事情，開始安排自己的種種計劃，規(guī)劃自己的方向，自己的獨處也變得充滿意義。

    2 Use manners. Try to be courteous without being stuffy or inflexible.

    When meeting new people, shake their hand. A solid grip, but not too hard, two pumps of the hand and let go. Don't look at your hands; look them in the eye. Repeat their name and make an effort to remember it.

    Avoid interrupting people during conversation; people find this irritating.

    Don't play with things, look away, or fidget.

    注意自己的儀態(tài)。心態(tài)，健全平和的心態(tài)是始終貫穿成功之路的籌碼。正確地樹立前進(jìn)的目標(biāo)，讓生活目標(biāo)而不是在沉重氛圍的度過，記住，任何時候都不要把自己搞得太累，生活的價值就完全失去了。

    3 Have a genuine good attitude and a goodwill towards others.

    Goodwill towards others is a sign of maturity because it shows that you have recognized that "we are all in this together." No matter what makes us different, there is more that makes us the same.

    Give people the benefit of the doubt.

    Be the "bigger person." If someone is rude to you, try not to return the "favor." If you can let it go, don't reply; silence is a good judge. If you can't let it go, simply tell the person that their comment was rude.

    友好對待身邊每一個人。讓自己快樂，讓周圍的人快樂。絕對比金錢有價值。

    4 Have confidence in yourself and speak from your heart.

    Voice your thoughts honestly.

    Do not apologize for bits of quirkiness, oddities, or weirdness that you may have. They are part of who you are; not everyone can be the same.

    自信的生活，開心的笑，成功與快樂并駕齊驅(qū)。不以物喜，不以己悲。

    5 Think before you speak. If you can't think of anything to say, or don't have anything nice to say, then say nothing.

    三思而后行。學(xué)著尊重每個人每個生物，就如向日葵喜歡面對太陽才會微笑。

    6 "Be slow to anger". People that lose temper and/or self-control easily may be recognized as insecure or immature.

    不再容易生氣。當(dāng)你再遇到不順心的事情時不再是用哭鬧來解決問題，眼淚能沖刷的永遠(yuǎn)是面容，能改變現(xiàn)狀的只有行動。

    7 Learn to apologize sincerely for your mistakes, inappropriate words and actions towards others. It might take some practice and courage to overcome your pride, but remember: the best way to act mature is by being truly mature.

    敢于承認(rèn)自己的錯誤。重視自己的朋友，愛人。因為這些人不是總會存在你的生命中的，也許在不輕易間就物事人非了。在他們面前你無需作假，天真無瑕的自己在這個大千世界里是為他們上演的。切忌不要忘了真誠。

    8 Listen, slightly nod, and say little things like, "Oh, yes," to let them know you are listening. Make sure you are actually listening.

    仔細(xì)聆聽他人，覺得對的地方點頭贊同，讓對方知道你是在聽著的。

    9 Remember, when you speak, use facial expressions and be funny as usual, but be more serious in conversation.

    在聊天時打打鬧鬧，在談判時認(rèn)認(rèn)真真。

    10 Be helpful. Hold doors, help pick things up, and offer help and assistance when needed.

    樂于助人。幫助他人關(guān)門，撿起東西等等。

    11 Talk about mature things to people: work, life experiences, and life lessons you have learned, or just about how beautiful it is outside. Notice how they carry themselves, how they dress, and how they speak.

    討論工作，生活和學(xué)習(xí)。在面對得與失，去與留的問題上，大度與開懷會讓復(fù)雜的事情變得簡單，簡單的事情變得富有意義。

    12 Keep in mind, around kids, squat down to their size when you talk to them. Don't act fake when they tell you something that is a big accomplishment to them. Say, "Awesome!" or, "Wow, good job." Kids feel good when you are truly amazed instead of patronizing.

    尊敬老人和善待兒童。任何時候不要與老人與小孩子計較，生命的開始是無知的，生命的完結(jié)應(yīng)該快樂的。

    13 Try to use proper grammar and spelling whenever you write, including instant messaging and online games.

    開始注重自己的語法和拼寫。

    14 Keep an open mind. Just because you have never heard of or tried something, doesn't mean you should shut it out or dismiss the possibility. Rather, see it as an opportunity for you to learn about something （or someone） new and different.

    思維活躍。當(dāng)你面對很多選擇時，不再猶豫不定，腦中會很快得閃過三個以上選擇某種選項的必要原因。有了自己獨立的思想，開始學(xué)著鎮(zhèn)定理性得思考問題。

    15 Learn to control your temper. Above all, if somebody does something you don't agree with, try not to shout or carry on. Instead, let it go if it is a minor matter. If you must say something or disagree with someone, do so tactfully and in a conversational tone of voice. You'll find that people respond more positively, too.

    學(xué)會控制自己。淡忘仇恨，春暖花開。心有多大，舞臺就有多大。

    16 Don't swear, or at the very least, save the swearing for times that really warrant it. Swearing mainly demonstrates to others that you have poor control over your temper. Instead, try learning some other words to show your displeasure with something. Something that's not up to your standards could be terrible, lousy, rotten, crummy, no-good, and so on. Many of these terms will help you zero in on what the trouble is, communicate more effectively, and perhaps even move towards a solution.

    Try it! You will probably find that people will listen to you better and take you more seriously if you don't swear.

    不再輕易許諾。當(dāng)你開始覺得時間明顯得不夠用，漸漸的覺得睡懶覺，逛街等是相當(dāng)浪費時間金錢的事情，思想與行動上的時間概念達(dá)成了一致，合理的安排時間，充實的生活會把自己帶入一個更喜歡的世界。

    17 Accept compliments gracefully. If somebody has taken the trouble to compliment you, the least you can do is appreciate it.

    接受別人的贊揚。如果別人贊揚了你，你一定要謝謝他。

    18 Take criticism gracefully, too. Not all of it is valid, but it is often worth giving some thought to how others see you and what you can improve.

    虛心接受批評。雖然別人的意見不一定全對，但總有值得你去思考的地方。

    19 Be mature and polite online, too.

    成熟禮貌。當(dāng)你在上網(wǎng)或閱讀時，會把側(cè)重點從一味的關(guān)注娛樂雜談轉(zhuǎn)移到新聞國事，經(jīng)濟(jì)發(fā)展趨勢的版圖，娛樂雜談永遠(yuǎn)是用來開懷大笑的，而新聞國事則是提高個人認(rèn)知程度關(guān)心國家發(fā)展以及愛國的表現(xiàn)，開放的心靈開放的國度，互通有無，共同進(jìn)步，閉關(guān)鎖國萬萬不得已，經(jīng)濟(jì)發(fā)展趨勢往往會影響人們囊中銀子的分量。

    20.Quit drinking caffeine. This includes coffee, soda, tea and most energy drinks. Caffeine makes you hyperactive, which in turn, makes you immature. Try to not drink caffeine, but if you do, take it in small amounts. Sugar can also make you very hyper.

    注重飲食。當(dāng)你在飲食習(xí)慣上越來越重視食物的質(zhì)量，養(yǎng)生之道的念頭闖入腦海，學(xué)著堅持吃早餐，每天堅持鍛煉身體。俗話說得好，留在青山在，不怕沒柴燒。這個道理無人不知曉吧。