The socially acceptable first date would not be so challenging if it weren't so darn important. For girls, they can usually tell within the first few moments of a rendezvous whether we will accept a second invite, so men young and old, read on for the basic survival guide to the “first date”. First things first. Avoid going to the movies, talking long walks or making the date too complicated. A simple dinner and if appropriated an after dinner drink is the right combination for the first time you meet.

    What line of behavior one should take? Where is this thin line which divides goodness from awkwardness, attraction from repulsion? Here are seven useful tips, which I would like to share with you:

    Tip 1: By no means do not get late
    According to modern psychology an opinion about person is formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting. Do not let her to spend these 15 seconds just dully waiting for you. Women hate when someone makes them wait (I made this rhythmic by a coincidence, but it is still a great truth about women). No, you do not want her to stay there and think about those million useful things, which she could do instead of waiting for you. So, just do not be late, period.

    Tip 2: Plan everything ahead
    All elements of your date program (yes, program), must be well thought. Moreover, it is better to have two options for her choice, just in case if she do not want to go with you to A, offer her to go to B. Rely on what you know about her: if you met her online, then knowing her profile and her own words from your online exchange will guide you. Still, remember that she has never seen you before, so don't try to freak her out: meeting in remote parks, cemeteries (even historical) and abandoned warehouses must be out of question. The meeting place must be nice, cozy and reasonably crowded. Museum (or something similar) would be a good choice, you will be surrounded by beautiful objects and you will have a decent chance to talk. From there you can offer next stop at a restaurant, or wherever you have planned the next stop.

    Tip 3: Look neatly
    Maybe I should not tell you that, maybe you are well aware of this simple fact, that when you are coming to a date (especially first date) you should look like you just jumped from a vintage postcard! Nevertheless, I have to mention this anyway, at least for the sake of those who forgot this simple rule. Women like when man looks like he took care of his appearance. Of course, everything counts and everything will be noticed: attire, shoes, hair, fragrance, even teeth and fingernails! Undoubtedly, she had spent several hours before mirror, making herself look special so she expects same from you! Do not get me wrong, you do not have to go for a day in a beauty parlor, just put some effort into it, so you will look attractive. Shower, shave, wrinkleless clothes and shiny shoes are those necessary elements which will make you feel good about yourself and help you to win those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned above.

    Tip 4: Be gentleman
    Just keep it old-fashioned way: open doors before her, let her first to the table, pool out a chair for her, etc. If you will have a chance helping her to take off (or put on) her coat: do not miss it, this is a chance to give her a hug, a small step in the right direction. So, the bottom line: be a gentleman, do not fear to be perceived as one: even a hard core feminist will appreciate your efforts

    Tip 5: Flowers Rule!
    Women love getting gifts on any season and occasion (and certainly with no occasion too). This date is the best reason for giving her a gift! The bouquet of flowers is a sure shot. Or, one red rose is even better (not too much and tasty). The majority of women will appreciate such gesture. This will give them a reason to tell the world that they have met a classy man.

    Tip 6: Speak less, listen more
    Women usually want to know about you, but even more they would like to tell about themselves. Give her this opportunity: ask questions and listen attentively everything she says. Of course, you have to listen actively, support her with short phrases, like "Is that right?!", "Yeah, I see", "Interesting" and keep nodding. If there will come your turn to talk, it is a bad idea to talk about your past wives and lovers, about issues with your health, about problems at work or on any religious subjects. Your task is to find a topic of mutual interest (while she is talking) and develop it. Look into her eyes, smile, show her a good sense of humor, and definitely do not try to tell her everything about yourself, leave it to your second, and third date with her, which will surely happen if you will follow these simple rules.

    Tip 7: Be generous with compliments
    This is what every woman would love and will expect from you. Your first words (after the formal intro) should be in any way saying how great, gorgeous, fantastic she looks. In a sense this is one of the tasks which you have to perform over all meeting: finding right moments and giving right compliments any time you have a chance. Your effort will be always appreciated.
 
    在社交中,要想得到一個令人滿意的初次約會并不是多么困難的,如果那個約會不是太重要的話.對于女士們來說, 在最初相會的片刻,她們一般就能夠判斷出我們是否會接受第二次邀請,因此,無論是年紀(jì)輕的還是年紀(jì)大的男士們,都來讀一下初次約會的基本生存指南吧.第一中的第一是:不要去看電影,不要”軋”太長的路或者把約會搞得太復(fù)雜.簡單的一頓飯,或者如果條件允許的話,一次餐后小酌是你第一次約會的恰當(dāng)節(jié)目.

    一個人該遵循什么樣的行為準(zhǔn)則呢?劃分拙笨和良好,吸引和排斥的細(xì)微界線在哪兒?這里有幾個有用的小提示,我愿意與你們分享:

    提示1:千萬不要遲到
    據(jù)現(xiàn)代心理學(xué)的理論，對一個人的看法是在會見的頭15秒內(nèi)形成的。所以，不要讓她把這15秒花在無聊地等待中。女人們厭惡讓她們等的人。（我只不過是偶然彈出了這個調(diào)調(diào)，但它仍然是關(guān)于女人的一個真理）。不，你不想讓她呆在那兒想著去做別的有意義的事，而不是等你。因此，別遲到，沒什么可說的。

    提示2：提前計劃好每一件事
    你的約會計劃（是的，是一個計劃）的所有基本項目都必須經(jīng)過認(rèn)真思考。此外，最好為她的選擇準(zhǔn)備兩個選項，只是防止她如果不想和你去做A活動，可以提供給她B活動.要依靠你對她的了解行事：如果你是在網(wǎng)上遇見的她，那么從你們的在線交流信息中了解她的背景和觀點將會給你很多指導(dǎo)。還有，要記住她以前從未見過你，因此不要讓她產(chǎn)生不安的感覺：一定不要考慮在偏僻的公園、墓地（就算是歷史遺跡）和廢棄的倉庫約會。相會的地點必須是美妙、愜意和適度熱鬧的。博物館（或類似的地方）會是一個好的選擇，周圍都是美麗的東西，你們將會有很多機(jī)會進(jìn)行交談。從那里開始，下一站你可以去飯店，或者是你計劃好的任何一站。

    提示3：看著要整潔
    也許我不該告訴你這一點，也許你對這個簡單的事實已有很好的了解，就是當(dāng)你要去約會（特別是第一次約會）的進(jìn)候，你看起來應(yīng)該象是剛剛從最漂亮的名信片中跳出來的一樣！不過，我無論如何還是要提到這一點，至少為了那些忘記了這一簡單法則的人。當(dāng)男人看來在注重儀表時，女人會高興。當(dāng)然，每件事都包括在內(nèi)，每件事都會被注意到：服裝、鞋子、頭發(fā)、香味，甚至牙齒和指甲。毫無疑問，她在鏡子前已經(jīng)花了好幾個小時，讓自己顯得很特別，所以，她希望你也一樣！別誤會，你不必在美容院里花一天時間，只要下一點功夫，你就會顯得很迷人。淋浴、刮臉、沒有皺紋的衣服和閃亮的鞋子都是讓你自我感覺良好和贏得我上面提到的15秒的必要因素。

    提示4：做個紳士
    保持老派的方式：為她開門，讓她先入座，為她拉出椅子等等。如果你有機(jī)會幫助她脫下（或穿上）外套，不要錯過了，這是擁抱她的一個機(jī)會，是向正確方向邁出的一小步。所以，底線是：做個紳士，要敢于承認(rèn)這一點：即使最堅定的女權(quán)主義者也會贊賞你作出的努力。

    提示5：獻(xiàn)花法則
    女人喜歡在任何時節(jié)和任何場合收到禮物（當(dāng)然也沒必要總送）。這次約會是送給她禮物最好的理由！花束是一個很穩(wěn)妥的選擇�；蛟S，一支紅玫瑰更好（不必太多太惹眼）。大多數(shù)女人會賞識這種姿態(tài)。這會給她們一個理由向世界宣告她們遇到了一個優(yōu)雅的男人。

    提示6：少說多聽
    女人通常都想了你，但她們更愿意談?wù)撟约�。給她這個機(jī)會：提出問題并認(rèn)真聽她講的所有事情。當(dāng)然，你必須積極聽講，用簡短的話支持她，如：“是嗎？！”，“是，我明白”，“真有意思”還要不斷地點頭。如果輪到你講話，談?wù)撃愕那捌藓蛺廴�，你的健康問題，工作中的問題或任何宗教主題都是一個不怎么樣的想法。你的任務(wù)是要找到一個雙方都有興趣的話題（她正在談?wù)摰模┎⒀由煜氯�。盯著她的眼睛，微笑，展示給她良好的幽默感，并且要確定不要試圖告訴她關(guān)于你的全部，把它留給你的第二次、第三次和她的約會吧，如果你遵循了這些簡單的法則，當(dāng)然不是問題。

    提示7：勤恭維
    這是每個女人都喜歡的和期待你的。你的第一句話（在經(jīng)過正式介紹后）應(yīng)該說她有多么高貴、多么燦爛、多么迷人。從某種意義上說，這是你在所有的聚會中都必須完成的一項任務(wù)：找到合適的時刻，一有機(jī)會就給予恰當(dāng)?shù)墓ЬS。你的努力總是會得到賞識的。